SERIOUS SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

DYSFUNCTION DOTH PROCEED TO MALFUNCTION

QUICKLY, AND WITHOUT BENEFICIAL MOMENTUM

WITHOUT ANY GAIN COMPENSATING FOR THE LOSS.

Sexual Functionality is a practiced skill, it is a well planned behavior designed to attract and to avoid repelling or alarming or affronting a sex partner. Men will create the right conditions and try to make themselves attractive to and not repugnant in any way to their sex partners. Women will do the more personally centered attracting and some women may do more of the creation of conditions which are amenable to having sex. 

Forty or Fifty years ago, when persons of Lindon's generation established formative sexual partnerships, there were many long term relationships and cohabitation and marriage. To initiate the Sexual Relationship, the Man usually would have to be responsible for the creation of the right conditions, for behaving in an attractive and not repulsive manner and during the Sexual Relationship for making contact and initiating foreplay which could be engaged in just for pleasure, or might lead to oral sex or intercourse and orgasm. The certainty that the Sexual Acts necessary to satisfy the needs of the moment will be engaged in means that sex partners do not have to try to be sure to grab the chance to copulate or otherwise orgasm because plenty of that will be happening as needed and a relaxed pleasuring and enjoying during sex can be allowed to flow as it would.

Married men said, back then, that being married was not that bad. Dinner was always on the table and sex was available without having to hunt for it and wine and dine and refine. The expense of supporting the family was compensated for by the meals and sex and laundry done and if you did not have to chase after women you would not need a lot of money to blow on dates and drinks et al.

WOMEN BEGAN TO CHALLENGE THE INITIATION OF SEX BY MEN AS IF SOMETHING WAS BEING TAKEN FROM THEM RATHER THAN MUTUALLY ENJOYABLY EXPERIENCED. I WILL DECIDE WHEN WE HAVE SEX THEY SAID AND YOU CAN JUST KEEP THAT MOTOR RUNNING FOR WHEN I WHISTLE YOU UP.

You have to be able to initiate Sex and to know how to and when you can, what is the optimal micro moment to approach, to flatter or to touch or to caress. Without experience in doing the initiating of Sex and the knowing what the right moment is, it can make sex become difficult and demanding and tense as well.

Worse still is the situation where Sex will be offered grudgingly on a schedule or will be declared to be pleasure-less or of no value. A cavalier and uncaring approach to Sex results after a Control and Give Out  Sexual Relationship has been substituted for the Traditional Sexual Relationship which was first entered into. Bear witness to what promises both Spouses make in The Marriage Vows.

Housework was judged to be demeaning and not as cooperating and sharing. How could it not occur to wives and cohabitants that if you plan to cook and clean and launder for yourself and your children, what is the huge extra effort of caring for the man who brings home the Bacon. If you do not want to care for yourself and your children, what is the purpose of this trip into marriage?

IF EXPENSES ARE SHARED AND WORK IS SHARED THAT IS A DIFFERENT SITUATION TO THE LONG TERM TRADITIONAL SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP AND CHILD REARING WHICH WAS THE NORM FOR HUNDREDS OF YEARS AND WAS STILL FULLY ESPOUSED WHEN LINDON AND HIS GENERATION FORMED SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS AND FAMILIES POSSIBLY EVEN THE NEXT GENERATION AS WELL PLAYED BY THE TRADITIONAL RULES OF LOVE, LIVING TOGETHER,   ( HAVING CHILDREN SOMETIMES ), AND MARRIAGE.